Is sex okay during pregnancy?

I have received some conflicting advice about having sex during pregnancy. Is sex okay during pregnancy?

A: Yes, sex is usually okay during pregnancy. In fact, sometimes sex is great during pregnancy. All kidding aside, sexual intercourse is safe for mother and child throughout most pregnancies, with a few stipulations.

Women may be advised to avoid intercourse during all or part of the pregnancy under circumstances such as these:

A history of miscarriage
A history of preterm labor or birth
They are having preterm labor during the current pregnancy
Bleeding
Cramping
Infection
Problems with the placenta
Incompetent cervix

Although you may feel embarrassed, don’t hesitate to ask your obstetrician if you have any doubts about what’s safe. If intercourse is ruled out for you, remember that there are other forms of sexual intimacy which can be very satisfying for both partners. One practice that’s never safe, though, is blowing air into the vagina. This can create what’s known as an air embolism, which can be deadly to both mother and child.

Of course, some couples aren’t as interested in sex during pregnancy. Others find it more desirable and more pleasurable. The range of what’s “normal” is extremely wide. Late in pregnancy, it’s common for couples to avoid sexual positions that put the partner’s weight on top of the pregnant woman’s abdomen. Couples who are able to talk openly with each other about their concerns and emotions may have an easier time finding their comfort zones when it comes to sexuality in pregnancy.

Date Published: Dec. 16, 1999
Date Reviewed: Dec. 16, 1999

Nancy Snyderman, M.D., F.A.C.S